The Food/Drinks
It’s obvious, really. They’re right there in front of you. Does she like what she’s got? Does she want to try yours? What’s her favorite cocktail?
Music
What’s also probably there and should work as its own cue is music. Don’t use this as an excuse to tell her your top 100 albums in descending order, though. Guys have a tendency to get a bit crazy when it comes to talking about music. Ask her what she’s into. And if she says something you hate (which, let’s face it, is very likely…) – fight the temptation to spit on the floor and walk out.
Television
You don’t want to look like an expert, though. That’ll paint you out like a couch potato. But, do ask her what she watches. Remember – it’s not a test, you’re finding out about one another. If your tastes are hugely different, perhaps you’re not a right fit. Don’t make a snap judgement on that just based on the fact that she doesn’t watch The Walking Dead, though.
Movies
This subject works like the last two, but – you can use it to progress to date two. Get talking about new releases. Listen out for what movie she’s looking forward to seeing. When she says it – REMEMBER IT. Later down the line it can be your key to another meet.
Work
Tricky topic, this one. It’ll come up, no doubt. Don’t fear it, but do beware that it can be a touchy subject. You don’t want to brag about work if you have a good job. It looks arrogant. Similarly, you can’t be too down on yourself if you have a slightly less than impressive sounding job role. Tell her what you do, say you enjoy it, then move things onto her line of work.
Hobbies
Now we’re talking (quite literally). People LOVE talking about the things they, well, love. Get her talking about her hobbies and interests. Then the chat will, naturally, turn to yours. Tell her. Be passionate! There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than a man with fire in his belly about something. Unless that thing is strip clubs of course (usually).
Pets and Animals
Not that we wish to generalize, but there’s a good chance the girl you’re talking to will either have a pet or want one. Furry friends will get them gushing with words and all you need do is sit back, nod and pull ‘aaaaw, cute!‘ faces. Talk about your childhood pet (do NOT cry!). Show respect, love and appreciation for animals and you’re winning brownie points already.
Travel
Where has she been? Where does she want to go? Can you relate to the places she names? Does she have any holiday plans? Do you? If you don’t, you should check out our ultimate list of the best places for single guys to travel to. Okay, so travel questions are the sort of thing your barber asks, but dammit if it isn’t a great topic anyway. Those people know more than just how to make your hair look good, y’know.
Future Plans
Avoid making this sound like an interview question, but it’s still a good idea for a conversation topic. Prepare your answer and you can appear focused and goal-oriented. Drop in a mention of ‘a lovely woman’ and ‘kids’ and you’re onto a real winner.
Education
You’re not exchanging qualification details here. But this opens up opportunities for anecdotes about school, college and uni. Just keep ’em clean.
Pet Peeves
What bugs the girl? What annoys you? Keep it light. This isn’t a chance to angrily rant for 45 minutes about your boss or referees.
Personal Struggles
This one’s risky, though. You’ve got to judge the tone of the evening. It could turn things a bit sour. But, judge it right and talking about things she’s overcome can help the girl develop an emotional connection and build trust with you.
Politics
This can give you both something to talk and agree on. On the flipside, you may find yourselves shouting at each other. Proceed. With. Caution.
Drugs and Alcohol
This isn’t a topic for everyone, but you may have to broach it eventually. If you’re either a particular fan or hugely dislike these two things – you’re going to need to she how she feels about them.
Ethics
It’s a tough one. Talking about morally questionable ideas and systems – wage slavery, real slavery, racism, etc. Save this for once you’ve had a few conversations. Only things could turn sour. And if she’s not keen to talk about this sort of thing? Ditch the idea.
Dreams
Maybe you’ll get her to open up and talk freely about her crazy, interesting dreams. If that’s the case, it’s an awesome topic to talk about. Dreams are usually a person’s true passions. And people love to talk about them. Or, maybe it’s a dead end. Worse still, it could just be boring for the one listening/pretending to listen. Keep it in your back pocket and play it by ear.
Conspiracy Theories
Who does she think killed JFK? Alright, this one’s not for everyone, admittedly, but it can be entertaining. But either way, you really shouldn’t bring up your flat Earth theory.
Life and the universe
If you can’t string a few minutes talk out of a subject as huge as this, then you’re probably screwed, brother.
Love
But remember, guys. It’s a pretty bad idea to ask her if she’s in love with you. If you’re not sure why we’ve said that, this post is for you.
Link: Theadultman.com
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