Being in a best friend’s wedding can be a lot of fun, but it’s not cheap. The bachelorette party and all the expenses that come with it, your dress, hair and makeup for the big day, along with travel, accommodations and gifts add up quickly. And with the cost of living so high right now, being a bridesmaid is a luxury a lot of people just can’t afford.
So, how do you turn down being a bridesmaid for your bestie without hurting her feelings? Here’s what the experts recommend.
- Remember saying “no” is okay - It may feel like the most uncomfortable thing in the world, but saying “no” doesn’t have to be. Maria Houston-Moore, a counselor from the wedding planning site Brideplan, recommends just being open, honest and giving context about why you’re unable to be in the wedding party.
- Don’t wait - Fight the urge to delay and find excuses. Being stressed about breaking the news to the bride is normal, but the sooner you say no, the better it is for everyone. Psychologist Barbara Santini points out that this will give her time to find someone else, so don’t wait too long.
- Be honest - This is your friend, so you shouldn’t be embarrassed about your reason for declining, especially if it comes down to money.
- Stress that you appreciate the offer - It’s important to tell the bride how grateful you are to have been asked, even if you can’t do it.
- Find other ways to support her - Wedding expert Alicia Currie says there are lots of other ways to be there for the bride and celebrate as a best friend. Let her know if you’d like to be a part of pre-wedding events and remember that she asked you because she wants you to be more involved on her special day.
Source: Metro
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