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We’ve all heard so-called advice experts saying that you should never go to bed angry. Now, sex and relationship psychotherapist Gigi Engle is flipping that script. Engle is calling BS on the conventional wisdom of resolving everything quickly so that you can concentrate on getting sleep. The problem, in Engle’s eyes, is that human emotions are complex, and it’s not that simple to just shut things down and think things are going to be just fine and dandy.
Because of Disney-like romanticism, we’ve all been conditioned to believe in the whole “don’t go to bed angry” myth…mainly because we all “want to avoid pain and uncomfortable feelings.” By forcing a pre-bed resolution, Engle says we’re putting “a mask” on the real problem and giving it a “superficial resolution.” So, then, what’s the right way to go to bed pissed? Here are a few healthy ways to do it…
- Call an “intentional time out” and “press pause”
- Acknowledge the difficulties on both sides that are the root causes of the conflict
- Agree to resume in the morning, hopefully with clearer heads and more rational thinking
Source: Men’s Health