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News flash: you are allowed to say "no." We're hit with hundreds of requests for our time, and many times they're afraid of turning such asks down.
Author Tamsen Fadal says, we don't need to say yes to everything!"
She offers a four-part strategy that may help you set boundaries and reclaim some of your power.
- What Do You Want? - Consider: How do you want to spend your time? What will renew your mind? What do you value? And factor that into whether or not to extend yourself for others. It's your life, your time. Claim it. It's allowed.
- Time Block Your Personal Time - A lot is asked of you. Be proactive in your own interest; write down hours during the day that are yours, and where you are unavailable to others. Set those parameters before any requests come in and don't bend.
- Understand The Power Of "No" - Many of the things that are asked of us, we don't want to do. Saying "no" may be difficult for you, but here are ways to phrase it politely where you will get what you want and do it in a way that is easy to swallow for you and them. "Thank you, I would love to, but I won’t be able to do it at this time," or "That sounds amazing, but I just can’t," both work. Remember, your "no" is not a discussion, it's a decision.
- Not Everyone Will Be Happy - Allow yourself to come first as often as you can. There is no prize at the end for how much you gave of yourself and allowed anyone and everyone to take precedence. Make your time the priority.
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